Monday, May 01, 2006

My Friends.....

This was a terrible weekend. In just one go, I realized how I lost four of my very good friends in a time span of less than a year.

I lost one friend to her marriage and husband...can't really blame her. But from the moment she picks up the phone (invariably I am the one who calls her nowadays; she is busy with her marriage, ofcourse!!)till we hang up, the one topic which keeps coming back (over and over again) in less than a 30-min conversation is her husband, her in-laws and generally her ideas on marriage. I am appalled. She is the learned one who used to talk about science and books on fiction..but nowadays it is astrology and romance...quite a change....

I lost my best friend of almost 6 years to his new (girl)friend. I know I should not make a big deal of it. But I learned about this from his other friends....would have felt a little better if he would have just told me about her directly...We were good friends and nothing more. But still doesn't he owe me some straight-forwardness? Is it wrong for me to expect this?

The third friend - everything happened in such a jiffy with her. She became a good friend within hours of our first meeting. Everything with her used to be exciting and pulsating. But she had to move to a different country for her job...we gradually (I am still not sure) lost touch in each other's life!! Even now, we do talk and chat, but something is missing in the friendship..distance, maybe....

The fourth one was my closest buddy from when I was in grade school. Nothing, I mean, nothing had separated us in the last 15 years or so, until recently. Atleast we used to email and talk to each other every month or so.. We were two people who irrespective of how long ago we had conversed last, can just delve into anything anytime. Now, I lost her. To her dream job and great future. No complaints. She was the best person anyone could be associated with!!

I still have a whole bunch of people whom I can count on for anything. But these four, who were a major part of my life are irreplaceable. What else to do, but to wish them the best for a great future!!!

6 comments:

Sriram said...

reminds me of my own case!! and changed places, have we? (new URL and all)

Taruna said...

@ Sriram
Good to know that other ppl go thro' such stuff too!! Yep, changed places recently...

Archana said...

That happens from time to time. Guess everyone kinda starts having different priorities in life :-(!

Taruna said...

@Archana
Yep, people and their priorities...

Aravindan said...

i hv a serious doubt ( as usual)

i always thought there cud be only 4 truly irreplaceable persons in one's life - father, mother, sibling, spouse.

do u really think frdns cud be that absolutely irreplaceable? sorry for puttin u in a spot! somehow i m not able to buy the idea.

Taruna said...

@Aravindan
There's no doubt that family always tops and is never replacable. This post was just about friends. You might always get new friends, but I think that you can never replace one friend with an other. Dont you agree?