Sometimes I feel annoyed and embarrassed when people show PDA disregarding the look in the faces of people around them. But in a few cases, I have found it to be endearing and makes me look forward (..... well, a little) to something in the future. The special case being really old couples...sometimes, someone has to push each of them in separate wheel chairs...they will still try to hold hands..or to the least, look at each other and smile fondly. I give complete courtesy to uncountable waiting times in the O'Hare International Airport ...longer the waiting time or layover is, more is the number of couples seen ...ofcourse, this is only if we look at the whole thing unconventionally and try not to ask too many questions or get into the legalities or judgements....
Like my colleague Jim and his wife - referred to as Jim Thatha.....since he is over 60 and looks his age. The first time, I met the couple (together) was during the office Christmas party last year. They looked really TOGETHER.....holding hands, smiling coyly at their age, being courteous to each other, laughing at each other's silly jokes, well.......it was nice to look at them. A few weeks later, I mentioned it to him that he and his wife looked good together... he said "we better look good...it took us so many years"... two failed marriages + three kids for him and three failed marriages + five kids + several grandkids for her and then these two ended up together...
What does it take? What does it take to go on for 40-50 years like this and still be fond of each other....keep bickering, yapping stories, never growing tired of each other's company, put in all the effort and time needed to maintain such a state, ....... I guess there's no one finite answer to all this..right?
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i want to say something funny..but you are right (for a change :P)..there is no finite answer...and in some cases no answer at all.
What does it take ?. I've wondered about this myself. Destiny ? Luck ? A maturity that we develop over the years ? A lovely chemistry that lasts for a long time ? I guess we won't know for a long time..
@Zep
I am right.. for a change?? :-((
OMG..
@Dinesh
A mix of everything you mentioned + a black box, I guess..!!
romba feel panna aarambichuta..;)
don worry :P
If u ask me, I would say AGE.
I do not think I wud need X marriages, Y kids and Z grand kids to realise and get the "soul mate" as populary referred in this part of the world.
Not that I do not accept of being a critic of some of the western practices - but frankly speaking Jim now is happy with the wife u met simply bcos he is over 60 and cannot be in the market. I hope everybody'd agree that Jim tried out all options when he was younger and now at 60 it is not impossible but difficult to be changing partners like he/ she did b4!
~!r
oops..this comment is too long for some anonymous :p
@Mukund
Yes... contemplating and trying hard to figure out!! eh??
@Ara
Enna nakkala...?? Feel ellam pannala...
@Anonymous
Age wasn't the criterion here.... the point of the post was to figure out something that makes a relationship works!!
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